I grew up in a small community in Southwest Louisiana, and, from a very young age, I excelled in school. Because of this and from as early as I can remember, I was encouraged by educators and adults in my community of what my career options should be—most often it was the typical doctor, lawyer, etc. I continued to work hard throughout high school and eventually following the expectations placed on me, I enrolled in a pre-med degree program in college with plans to become an optometrist. But deep down, I knew that’s not what I wanted to do. What I wanted was to fulfill the societal expectations, say I was a “doctor,” and achieve the earning potential that would deem me “successful.”
I finally confessed to Opal during my senior year in college that I wanted to be a teacher and, after graduating, completed a post-bachelors teacher certification program. I taught high school science, started a family, and began pursuing a master’s degree in educational leadership. After just three-and-a-half years as a classroom teacher, I moved on to become an assistant principal, principal, and began a doctoral program at Texas A&M University. By the time I finished my doctorate, I was a school superintendent, we had just welcomed our fourth child, and our oldest was about to start middle school. I was tired, burnt out from the endless evening duties, and wanted nothing more than to focus on my family.
After leaving the superintendency, I accepted an executive leadership role at a statewide educational leadership organization, which brought our family to Austin. While I had traded in evening commitments and constantly being on call, I found myself in a grueling commute, frequent evenings and overnights away, and our time and resources stretched more than ever.
After just seven years in Austin, I began working with a life coach. Through that journey, I was able align to my values and rediscover shelved dreams. My journey as a coaching client led me to return to my dreams of living in a historic home, focusing on my family, and serving my community. In December 2020, we moved from Austin to the mountains of Western North Carolina where Opal and I both work remotely part-time and we homeschool our two youngest kids. Shortly after making this life transforming move, we both pursued coaching as a profession as a way to continue to serve others.
Today, I enjoy spending my afternoons drinking coffee on the porch, taking the kids on impromptu hikes or finding a good fishing spot, taking Opal out on dates, and going on Saturday drives to find the best views. I am honoring my gift of and passion for community service by serving on various civic boards and committees.
This is my Unbinded Life.