Having Fun Together

This week we celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary. That’s right. Twenty. Four. Years. Hardly seems possible we are those same kids who walked down the aisle all those years ago.

If you’re wondering if there is any secret sauce to a long-lasting happy marriage, I don’t think there is just one thing. But one thing I know is important, it’s that you have fun!

I remember when Brandon and I were dating and it seems no matter what we were doing, we just had fun together. It didn’t matter if we were studying for an exam for a college class, spending the day with one of our families, if we were in a large group of friends, or if was just the two of us hanging out. We laughed. We joked. We made the most boring times eventful. We were having fun. 

This is the same thing I tell our own kids—dating should be fun. Save the hard work for when you are married.

If you can have fun when you’re dating, you’ll keep having fun when you’re married. When you can laugh at yourself and each other, when you look forward to whatever is the next adventure, then you’re on the right track.

Years of marriage will throw anything and everything your way. And you will have to work together to get through it. In the past 24 years, we have faced every type of hardship. We have weathered every kind of storm and we have trudged through all sorts of setbacks. When it comes to the things that are most important to you—you’ll face everything imaginable. This is when you work hard. This is when you work together knowing brighter days are around the corner.

What we have found is when you have fun together, the not-so-fun times don’t seem to last as long. The bad days are not has bad and the hard days are not as hard. 

The truth is, when you have fun together, you are reminded of all the things that brought the two of you together in the first place.